One of my favorite things to do while out on a run, working at my desk, or in the car running errands is to listen to a podcast. I have a long list of favorite shows which I posted here several months ago. My list has doubled since then, I will plan to share the new ones soon :)
During a recent run I listened to one of Oprah’s SuperSoul Conversations, where Oprah chatted with friend Julia Roberts, one of my favorite celebrities on this planet. I listened as two friends talked about getting older, family, relationships, being grateful, etc. One of the best moments in their conversation for me was when Julia talked about the importance of creating a relationship with her kids that is based on mutual respect. Julia mentioned that using words such as “please” and “thank you” should become the norm, not just something said when the grandparents are visiting. After listening to this podcast, I thought about the relationship the hubs and I are creating with our children. Is it based on mutual respect or are we constantly nagging them about all of the things they need to do or not do? Am I always rushing them from one activity to the next without acknowledging all of the great things they do? Am I speaking to my kids in the same tone of voice I would like for them to speak to me? In the midst of our crazy schedules and never-ending to-do’s, do they realize how special they are?
I decided to write the kids a note and place it on their beds the next day. As I sat in my office putting pen to paper I wondered if they would even notice the note or if a large pile of dirty laundry might swallow the note.
To my surprise both kids found their notes. In usual fashion, my youngest ran up to my husband and I, gave us a big hug and thanked us for the note. Our son, in his usual serious tone of voice said “thank you.” This was enough for me. But to my surprise, the next day as I walked by the kids’ rooms I noticed both notes nicely displayed; my daughter’s was on her vanity and my son’s on his desk. WHAT?! My kids either lose or throw everything away — What is happening?
It’s been almost two weeks since I placed the notes on their beds and yes (i actually have a smile on my face as I am typing this), the notes are still nicely displayed :)
Every time I see the notes I am reminded of how powerful words can be, whether said aloud or written in a cute note card :)
Thanks Oprah and Julia for the gentle reminder.